September 28 was my wedding anniversary. I would have been married twenty years. Thank goodness I’m not. Understand that he was mentally and emotionally abusive. He has stalked me, chased me down the highway and prevented me from leaving a room or the house. By the time I left I was very broken and suicidal.
When I brought up my anniversary with my therapist she wondered why I would want to mark this day in any way. My marriage was a nightmare. She suggested that I mark a different anniversary such as the day I left or the day my divorce was final and call it Freedom Day or something like that. Sound advice.
I think I’ll celebrate the day I left as my Freedom Day. The day I broke free from the abusive ex-husband and broke the cycle of getting into abusive relationships. I’m not really sure what day my divorce was final, the ex took care of all that and I never got the final papers. I don’t really care if I do or not. I have no plans of ever marrying again. It’s highly unlikely he didn’t go through with the divorce, and if he didn’t, who cares? It’s just a stupid piece of paper.
So, what shall I do to mark the occasion? I think it’s only appropriate to make it a “me” day. This could mean anything from mani-pedis to sleeping all day. It’s a day to do whatever the fuck I please. There’s no abusive husband telling me self care is a waste of time or that nothing I do for myself is productive.
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